Let's face it; our kids have had it good. You can find pretty much everything you want in the world of children these days, fulfilling any dream they, or you, have ever had. Assuming you have the money, you can buy scaled-down versions of your clothes, brightly coloured techno-gadgets and even child sized, off-road cars and BMX bikes. There are also those who don’t have the cash, but don’t hold back when it comes to their children. They max out the credit cards and don’t worry about it until the New Year. However, when jobs are uncertain, the only practical thing to do is to make changes in how we spend. Out go the social lunches, the take-away cappuccinos and the personal trainer. It would be sensible to extend these cutbacks to our children and teach them a little about fiscal responsibility, but it’s not as easily done as said. How people feel about themselves is often tied in with how well they think they are doing at parenting. Too often, and wrongly, that means what they are able to provide materially for their children.
Recession, what recession? - Surprisingly, considering all the doom and gloom we hear, there seem to be many families, with only one working parent and two cars in the driveway, who still manage annual passes to Legoland, two holidays a year planned around what “makes the children happy” and expensive birthday parties with entertainer and designer cake. That’s not me particularly, but I overspend in other ways. I’m sure you can relate. How many times have we headed to the shops to bargain-shop for something we actually need and come back home laden down with bags of cute clothing, the kid’s magazines with the crap toy taped to the front cover, or an extra pair of Ugg boots for when their completely impractical white pair gets dirty. The reason given is usually something like “I knew she would love it. I just couldn’t leave it there.” Listen to mothers talking in the school playground and it’s clear that people tend to project their own desires onto their children. I’m probably just as guilty of that as anyone else. When we can’t justify buying something for ourselves, we fulfil that acquisitive temptation by buying for them instead of ourselves.
Here are two cakes we made earlier this year. Definitely not professional quality, but the kids had a great time helping and they tasted great.
How do you overspend on your children, if at all?
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