Positively infertile and others; welcome ICLW'ers

I believe that a positive attitude will maximize a person's chance of conceiving. You may wonder how this works, if it does at all. I have no scientific research to back up my belief. I'm no scientist, but I imagine that it would be probably too difficult to maintain control groups of positive, negative and neutral, infertile women. The relationship between positivity and fertility health is in creating the right conditions in which conception can take place.

I've been listening to Susan Jeffer's Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway while taking my morning walk this week.  What Susan says in that audio book echoes my understanding of the value of positivity: that by saying yes, you are opening yourself up to a universe full of possibilities. Now, I must admit that I am not naturally the most positive person around; I actually have to work hard at it.  However, I have noticed that having a positive attitude reaps rewards in my life, so I use the same principle in my coaching. As Susan Jeffers puts it, few of us could maintain constant positivity without practice.

What you can see resulting from a positive attitude:

• You can see more options than when you are distracted by negative self-talk;
• You will be more focused and energetic, therefore, more productive;
• By changing your language into positives, you put a positive spin on everything you do;
• As you become accustomed to a positive mindset, you will see an increase in hopefulness and enthusiasm;
• An upbeat manner is infectious and helps the people around you feel more positive too;
• Even the grumpiest, wariest and most skeptical people will respond better (this may take time) when you act positive, so you get more company, better reception for your ideas, more cooperation and more support;
• When you are more positive, you will feel more relaxed which helps eliminate your stress;
• A positive outlook allows you to be open to new ideas and suggestions;
• By maintaining your positivity, you will be able to handle your fears, correct wrong decisions and bounce back from disappointments;
• You will easily avoid unealthy behaviours associated with negativity, stress and depression, such as overeating, undereating, lethargy, using caffeine or alcohol, and
• You will notice an increase in energy by shedding negativity, which can wear you down.

The list could go on and on, but I hope you see the sense in the examples here. Being consistently positive will require mindfulness. You can help yourself by using a few of the tips below:

• Find a positive person you admire and do what they do;
• Identify the people in your life who energize you and spend more time with them. Also, identify those who drain your energy with their negativity, and spend less time with them;
• Change your usual, negative statements into positive ones, e.g. Change "I need to get rid of 25 pounds of fat in order to conceive" into "I am losing 25 pounds to help myself conceive;"
• Use affirmations on a daily basis. If they seem awkward or embarrassing at first, practice them on paper first; always writing them as if the hoped-for event has already happened. Post them wherever you will notice them throughout your day....on your computer, your bathroom mirror, the inside of your diary, etc;
• Use smile therapy. Consciously smile at someone, making sure that your smile appears in your eyes as well as your mouth. Do not be put off if the other person doesn't smile back the first time; it's not about you. Take note when someone smiles back and how that feels;
• Project your positivity through openness, flexibility and appreciation of others;
• Keep a journal and write down 5 things you can feel positive about every day, no matter how small.
• Embrace some of the lifestyle changes you have to make in order to conceive, rather than putting up with them or feeling resentful. Ex. "I am free of the mood-altering effects of alcohol," rather than "I have to give up alcohol for the forseeable future."
• If you have fear or anxiety around different aspects of your fertility treatment, repeat to yourself as many times as you need, "I can do this; I can get through this." Take it one step, one appointment, one injection or one procedure at a time. You can worry about the next one once you have gotten through this one.

I am finding EFT (emotional freedom therapy) to be very effective, both in getting through immediate situations that cause discomfort and in changing thought patterns from negative to positive on a longer-term and possibly, permanent, basis.  Let me know if you would like more information about how EFT can help you.

Comments

[Chinese Herbal Medicine Melbourne]

Here your very first statement is very true that a positive attitude will maximize a person's chance of conceiving. I realize that you may feel in need of emotional support as you try to conceive through fertility issues. You need support that’s effective, works quickly and can bring you the peace of mind and positive thinking that you know is so vital to supporting your fertility.