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The "giving" part of Thanksgiving

It's that slightly bittersweet time of year for me; the holiday celebrations in America that began with Thanksgiving on Thursday this past week. I marked it in my heart, but as is often the case, I put the celebration aside. I live in England, with a British husband who has never really embraced my favourite holiday and children who have school that day, afternoon activities and homework due the following day. I comforted myself with phone calls to relatives in the States and a turkey breast for dinner that could be cooked at the last minute and eaten in front of the TV (we couldn't miss American X-Factor!) at 8 p.m. I made sure that there was some mention of gratitude; both the kind that you offer to others and the kind that you carry around in your heart. It was nice, but woefully inadequate compared to the big, warm, American celebrations that I remember, both with my own family and as a guest at a friend's home. Never mind. Maybe next year.

This year, I decided to do something for other people to mark the meaning behind Thanksgiving, which after all, was about giving thanks and sharing food with others in the community. Recently, a friend; Jane Milton, asked for volunteers to help out a charity called FareShare in their 1 Million Meal Appeal, which collects and redistributes surplus food within the UK. Their aim is to fight hunger and food waste in our society. Jane is perfectly positioned as an expert consultant to the food industry, to gather support and donations of fresh food from her professional contacts. However, this event was aimed at the public, asking for shoppers to purchase and donate longer-life items, such as tinned food, rice, pasta, coffee and tea, to be distributed to 35,000 people a day through 700 service organizations.

FareShare partnered with Sainsbury's to position volunteers in 600+ stores across the UK yesterday, to request and collect donations of food from people alongside their own grocery shopping. It was an interesting experience. I volunteered at my local store in Stanmore, where I'm an occasional shopper. I was positioned at one entrance, while an accountant named Bob was at the other. We were given everything we needed, including a large Volunteer sticker and a pile of leaflets and left to get on with it.

The "Ask" - I'm a friendly sort of person and don't find it difficult to approach people, but you have to be prepared for rejection of all sorts when asking for donations and you can't take it personally. (I must have spoken to at least 700 people in my 6-hour shift.) You also have to be careful not to make judgements about people based upon whether they donate; you can't really know what each person's circumstances are and can't spend their money for them. My approach was to ask if they would consider donating one food item to feed hungry people in the UK. I was careful to say "any donation, no matter how small, would be appreciated," and meant it. I was as effusive in my thanks for the donation of a single 25-pence can of tomato soup or bag of pasta, as I was for the donation of a £4 jar of coffee or box of tea bags. Still, I couldn't help but note that some of the biggest donations came from elderly people and others who didn't look like they had a lot of money, while some of the most well-turned-out shoppers completely blanked me. I also found it interesting how many people were keen that the food stay here in the UK, helping our residents, rather than being shipped out to feed people in other countries. There is a real sense that we have to take care of our own first, before helping others. I can't say I disagree, though I would like to believe we could help eradicate hunger globally if better systems were put in place.

Kids - My favourite donors were the parents who gave their children the food items to put in my trolley; a small act of giving plus the reward of positive feedback is a wonderful lesson for a child about values of generosity, sharing and caring. Additionally, a young teenage girl, who I hadn't stopped on her way in, handed me a bag of rice as she walked out with her sandwich lunch. One of my 7-year old art students quite excitedly brought me 3 cans of soup.

Bringing it home - Perhaps the greatest gift I both gave and received yesterday involved my own 12-year old daughter, who joined me at the end of my shift. Another fundraising activity was going on at the Customer Service desk behind me, so we donated a few pounds for her to have a henna tattoo painted on her arm, while I talked a young man on Work Experience with Sainsbury's through the approach to customers. Afterwards, we returned all of the food gifts which could not be accepted by FareShare and used our credit to purchase another 66 tins of food for the Million Meal Appeal, worth double that as Sainsbury's was matching customer donations. She has seen me budget carefully all year, making sometimes uncomfortable decisions about spending and saving for our own family. For once, this wasn't about us; it was about doing something for someone else for whom the discomfort could be going off to school in the morning hungry or not being able to stretch their weekly budget out to cover 7 days of nutritious meals for the whole family. She acknowledged that it was cool that I was willing to give my time for one day to help others, however "wierd" it may have seemed that Mum was wearing a Sainsbury's fleece (it was cold by that door!) and "cringe-y" that I was interacting with strangers. It proves my theory that talking about values is only worth so much; acting on them is where the real learning takes hold. So, next time, the kids are going to help too, because I didn't do anything yesterday that my children couldn't have done too.

Rewards - There are some people who don't think an act is truly generous if you are rewarded for having done it. I disagree entirely; the giver could have chosen not to give at all. Every one of yesterday's donors was rewarded with a smile, a thanks and a typically American "Have a great weekend." They deserved to feel good about their acts of kindness! I also made sure to thank the Sainsbury's employees who made the event run so well. After all, I was in their space all day and they supported me in every way. I also felt rewarded yesterday when I realized how much food had been donated as a result of my actions. I felt rewarded by the supportive comments I received from some of the donors, one of whom told me I was doing "a beautiful thing." Mostly, I felt good that I had taken myself out of my little world, with my various personal concerns, for one day and focussed on other people and what they need. When I expressed that positivity, there was a real buzz around us that visibly lifted everyone. That was all the thanks I needed.

Careless lab error could destroy a couple's baby hopes

The Daily Mail has reported that a fertility clinic in South Wales has accidentally destroyed a batch of 10 exceptional quality donor eggs belonging to a couple that had been trying to conceive for 7 years. The eggs had been donated by the woman's sister after previous IVF using her own eggs failed. The couple, in their mid-30's, were devastated to learn of the accident by telephone when they returned home from the clinic. All of the eggs had been stored in the same pipette, which was broken when a clinic employee knocked it against a microscope.

Simple human error? Just one of those very unlucky things? Apparently this is not a one-time incident that has cost a patient dearly. The HFEA is reportedly very concerned about the standard of care at the clinic, which also recently destroyed sperm stored by cancer patients for future use. Legal proceedings are being brought against the clinic by the couple involved, who are also calling for a rigorous investigation to prevent this happening to others. The question remains whether the HFEA, the regulatory authority for IVF and other fertility treatment in the UK, is in fact able to effect changes when there is a pattern of poor standards of care and service? Voicing concern is clearly insufficient. It would be understandable if the donor in this case is unwilling to put herself through the hormone treatment and egg retrieval process a second time as a result of this blunder, but perhaps her love and generosity of spirit will prevail. I can only hope that the couple involved finds a new fertility clinic in which they can build trust.

Parenting can be a bit of a minefield, but still...chickenpox lollipops?

There may be books out there that purport to guide us through parenting, but no book can truly prepare you for the decisions, opportunities and choices we are faced with in real life. In the real world, we have to use common sense to guide us in our actions. Most of the time, most people will make the choice that prioritizes the safety of our children. Sometimes, because we are human, emotion clouds our judgement. And then, there are those times when our judgement is influenced by convenience, cost and peer pressure. Surely that is where it all went wrong when some foolish parents decided to hold a "chickenpox party" where their young party guests were given infected lollipops in the hope that they would all contract chickenpox together.Chickenpox parties have apparently become popular in recent years following health concerns related to vaccinations. The next step was probably predictable; where there is a trend, someone will try to find a way to profit from it. Apparently, people are selling previously-licked lollipops (yes, licked by a child already contagious with the disease) over the internet! A Nashville, Tennessee woman has offered a "fresh batch of pox in her Facebook page: "Shipping of suckers, spit and Q-tips available tomorrow $50 via PayPal".

As far back as my own childhood, I remember siblings being exposed to each other while contagious to get the 2-week ordeal over with for the convenience of the mother. Perhaps cousins and playmates were also brought over for some passive exposure to chickenpox. I was shocked, but then quite relieved, when my daughter contracted an extremely mild case of chickenpox at 6 months old. She was too young to scratch the itchy spots and small enough for me to tend to her easily. When my 3 year old son was infected, along with half his nursery school, by one contagious child, I still thought it was better for him to have been exposed at an age when missing 2 weeks of school didn't matter much. However, he was severely affected and it was quite an ordeal for both of us. Still, I remember, now somewhat embarrassingly, having glibly invited friends to bring their kids around while he was contagious, so they would get it over with and have someone to play with while quarantined.

Even though chickenpox vaccines aren't available in the UK, I would probably have taken advantage of that option on one of our annual trips to the US, but I was too late. I would much rather my child have a proven vaccination and remove the potential danger and discomfort of any of the childhood diseases from my kids.

According to Isaac Thomsen, a specialist in paediatric infectious diseases at Vanderbilt Children's Hospital, it's unlikely to work by post because the shipping time would reduce the effectiveness of the germs left on the lollipop, but it is theoretically possible. It could, however, work if the lollipop is given directly from the mouth of the contagious child to another child at a party. It could also spread other diseases, such as hepatitis. It's not only a foolish, and actually quite gross, idea to feed anything licked by a stranger to your children, but it's also a federal crime to send diseases or viruses across state lines in the post. Sending snacks laced with chickenpox would be illegal under the same law that makes it illegal to post infectious diseases such as anthrax. Jerry Martin, a U.S. Attorney in Tennessee, quoted by Sky News, said a conviction could lead to a jail sentence between a few months and 20 years.

Fertility, Birth and Adoption News

Births - A little girl in the Phillipines named Danica has been named the 7 billionth child born in the world. I'm not sure how they pinpointed her, or the Phillipines, but assume that it was symbolic.

All women giving birth in the UK are to be given the choice over having a caesarean delivery, according to The Sunday Times. The NHS has previously limited caesarean sections on the basis of medical need; however, according to the National Institute for Health & Clinical Excellence (NICE), women should be able to make an informed choice. It could help women who have experienced some trauma in previous childbirth. This decision is not without controversy. There are doctors who do not believe in performing surgery that is not medically required, but they will have to refer their interested patients to other NHS doctors who are willing to perform the c-section. Doctors are also concerned about the added financial burden on the NHS, as a caesarean costs approximately £800 more per patient than vaginal delivery.

Adoption - David Cameron has announced that there will be a crackdown against the worst performing Councils who ban certain people from adopting, frown on cross-culture adoption or delay the process by taking too long to carry out investigations of potential adoptive parents. As it stands now, some local authorities refuse to consider smokers or overweight people as adoptive parents, while others won't allow white people to adopt black children, even if there is a shortage of black parental candidates.

Martin Narey, Cameron's adviser on adoption, is the former chief executive of Barnardo's the children's charity. He stated this weekend that while it is important for the system to be rigorous in vetting potential adoptive parents, it should move much more quickly than it does. At present, only about 60 children are permanently adopted each year in Britain. Baroness Oona King, the former MP, spoke movingly on TV news this morning about the delays in the adoption process that "lost" her the first 13 months of each of her adopted children's lives.

Someone's been a bit too generous

One man; 17 families. No, he's not a bigamist. One British man has reportedly donated sperm to 17 couples, breaching HFEA regulations that limit donation to a maximum of 10 couples, according to The Sunday Times. Does it matter? Actually, yes. The Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority regulations are in place to prevent the possibility that half-siblings could unknowingly meet and become involved in sexual relationships, thereby potentially parenting children with genetic risks.

In a large country like the United States, with a population of approximately 300 million, the distribution of donated sperm to multiple beneficiaries is not such a big risk. (See my post on Sperm Donor 150, who has 14 known biological children fathered through sperm donation, spread out across the United States.) However, the HFEA has determined that these regulations are necessary in a country like the United Kingdom, which only has about 60 million residents in a relatively small geographical area. Alan Doran, the chief executive of the regulatory authority, admitted this week that others have breached the maximum as well. He announced a crackdown, assuring that the HFEA would be warning fertility clinics that they risk losing their license if they continue to break the rules.

This isn't the first time that we have read about fertility clinics flouting the HFEA guidelines. I'm not sure whether this is simply a case of inadequate monitoring or the inability to follow through and actually impose sanctions. In the case of sperm donation, the risks to offspring could be both physical and emotional. It is important to consider the psychological ramifications to donor-conceived children, who may suffer adversely from discovering that they are one of dozens of siblings born to different families.

I would like to see the HFEA get some teeth. Fertility clinics are profit centres and cannot be expected or trusted to be wholly self-regulating. Since payment of donors is not allowed and sperm donors can only receive fairly minimal expenses for travel expenses and loss of earnings, up to £250 per time, the cost to the clinic is negligible. However, this may also be the reason that men do not come forward to donate sperm, hence the temptation to use the same donor over and over again. There are no regulations regarding how many children each of the 10 permitted families can have via sperm donation, so this one man could have fathered dozens of children who may never know about each other. Those who donated sperm, eggs or embryos after 1 April 2005 are, by law, identifiable, however, this will only happen if the donor-conceived children request their donor’s name and last known address, once they reach the age of 18. It's up to the regulatory authority to put in place as many safeguards as possible. It's also up to them to make sure they are being used.

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n. pl. con·san·guin·i·ties

1. Relationship by blood or by a common ancestor.

2. A close affinity or connection.

"Consanguinity is an important legal concept in that the laws of many jurisdictions consider consanguinity as a factor in deciding whether two individuals may be married." http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Consanguinity

I love happy endings: A fertility fairy tale come true

Once upon a time, a young woman from Oxfordshire experienced premature ovarian failure at the age of 24 and thought she could never have children. She told her partner that it might be best for them to part, but he pledged his undying love for her and together, they went on a quest for a solution. They appealed to the local PCT for help, but were turned away on the basis of their age. When they thought all hope was lost, not one, but two, heroes came along to offer them a solution. Claire's sister offered to donate her eggs to the couple and a private hospital offered to perform the IVF procedure for free. The Cousins now have 2 children. The end.

Okay, so that's the fairy tale, with a damsel in distress, a villain, a heroine and the knight in shining armour, but the real story isn't far off. Claire Cousins tried to conceive for 2 years before being diagnosed with premature ovarian failure in 2009. She was told that the only way that she could conceive would be with donor eggs and IVF, however, when she and her husband Gary applied for the treatment through their local Primary Care Trust in Oxfordshire, they were turned down. While the general NHS guidelines permit funding of IVF for women between the ages of 23 and 39, Oxfordshire PCT restricted funding to those between the ages of 35 and 38 on the grounds of their budget. Despite the support of their GP and local MP, their appeals were turned down. The PCT later decided to expand its offering to women from the age of 30, but this still did not help the Cousins. They didn't have the £5,500 it would have cost to pay for the treatment privately.

Nearly three years on, and the Cousins are now a family of four. After some publicity, a private hospital stepped in and offered Claire the fertility treatment for free. Claire and Gary were able to have two children with the use of her sister's donated eggs.

This is just one case that demonstrates the uneven-handedness with which NHS funds are doled out by the various PCTs in the postcode lottery. While the PCTs must use some criteria in their decision-making, shouldn't there be space for them to apply them on an individual basis and make exceptions? Using strict criteria such as a specific age range does not always work, as demonstrated by the Cousins' case. Isn't it just like bureaucrats to tell a 24 year old that she is too young for IVF on the NHS, when she has already hit menopause and has no hope of having children without IVF? (Most women will go through menopause after the age of 45.) This wasn't about a lifestyle choice or misuse of funds, but of necessity. The system and those who run it are merely made to look foolish by these cases of thoughtless application of rules.

Making up for lost time

I was just writing an article for Mindful Mum this morning about when to announce your pregnancy, and thinking about some of the positive news stories about pregnancy which I have heard recently.

• I was really thrilled to read that Amanda Holden has recently announced that she is more than 3 months pregnant. You may have read here about Amanda's devastating stillbirth earlier this year. It's never easy to decide who and what   to tell about a pregnancy that follows a loss like that, and especially when you are in the public eye the way Amanda is. I think she has demonstrated great courage and hope, and wish her well. 
• Lisa Wilkinson, who lost her husband Gareth to bone cancer 3 years ago, now has a 1-year old baby Jack, born of Gareth's sperm through a single cycle of IVF. In Lisa's open letter to Gareth in the Daily Mail, she recounts the decision they made together before he died, the hopes and fears she felt while pregnant and the emotional difficulties she faced during and after the emergency Caesarean birth.   Gareth had his sperm frozen prior to embarking on chemotherapy, as the treatment was likely to make him infertile. He and Lisa initially planned to have IVF once he had recovered from the cancer, but once he knew he was dying, he asked her to have their baby after he was gone.

Before agreeing to allow Lisa to undergo fertility treatment, doctors required Lisa to undergo psychological testing to ensure that she could cope emotionally with giving birth to Gareth's child on her own. While it seems from the article that Lisa resents this requirement to "prove her sanity" and the year-long delay that it caused, I agree in principle. It's important to determine that the reasons for giving birth to a deceased partner's child are sound and will not prevent a woman from healing from her loss, moving forward with her life in a healthy way or raising a baby who is wanted for themselves and not as a living memorial to his father. In fact, Lisa admits to having suffered post-natal depression and anxiety about having Jack on her own, however, she has recovered and is happily raising her now one-year old boy. He also brings joy and comfort to Gareth's mother, who helps out weekly with her grandson.

It's lovely to read about how people find the strength, resources and good fortune to overcome adversity. I"m grateful that people like Amanda Holden and Lisa Wilkinson are courageous enough to share their personal stories with us, as they will surely inspire someone else to meet their own challenges and move forward with their life.

End-of-summer news

Temperatures in England are cooling, everyone is returning from their summer holidays and there is a September mood of "let's get down to business" in the air.  Here's a little of what's in the news this week:

• I have a new, light-filled, private and cosy office in my garden which will be ready later in September for client sessions. I look forward to sharing it with you as soon as possible.
• Beyonce's having a baby!  The 30-year old global star, who totally rocked Glastonbury in June this year, has proudly announced her pregnancy.  It's so nice to hear some good news directly from the source, rather than the gossip magazines. I'm wishing her good health, happiness and an easy birth.
• Too posh to push? NHS North Yorkshire and York has banned elective caesarean sections on the basis that it costs twice as much (L 2,539) as a natural birth (L 1,324)and poses higher risks for mother and baby.  Currently, 1/4 of British births are by C-section. 
• Pre-implantation genetic diagnosis allows screening of embryos for genetic disorders.  One London couple, Jay and Ami Bharvada, went through 4 cycles of IVF to find an embryo that was both free of Wiskott-Aldrich syndrome, a rare genetic disorder, and a tissue match to their son Jivan who is afflicted by the disease.  Untreated, the boy would probably not live past age 10.  Eventually, the couple had a daughter through IVF whose umbilical cord will contribute stem cells vital to their son's recovery. She will then provide further life-saving aid through a bone marrow donation to her brother.  Now, the couple says that they will go ahead and give life to the remaining frozen embryos once their son's health improves.  Their religion, Jainism, has guided them in their decision not to destroy the surplus embryos.  They have launched a charity to raise awareness of storing stem cells from the umbilical cord and donating bone marrow:  Chance to Live.

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Stepmums can be denied NHS fertility treatment

This morning on The Wright Stuff, presenter Matthew Wright posed the question whether stepmums should be denied IVF treatment because they have (someone else's) children in their life. This isn't the first time I have heard of this. There have been occasions in the past when Primary Care Trusts (PCT) have denied fertility treatment to women whose husbands already had a child, albeit with another woman, or who have had children themselves in previous relationships. It's an example of bureaucratic policy making that doesn't take into account the human experience of the people it is meant to serve.

Susi Henson, a 33-year old woman has been denied IVF because her partner has a 20-year old son from a previous relationship who she has never even met.  This seems like blind adherance to a rule that does not take into account her medical condition, Polycystic Ovary Syndrome, that prevents her from conceiving. The Nottinghamshire County PCT has ignored the true facts surrounding this woman's childless status, in favour of a view that this is not a "childless couple."  However, in no way could Susi Henson ever be considered to have had the opportunity to parent her partner's child, considering that he is only 13 years younger than she is and lives in Wales. 

Some of the points made by Wright and his guests, including Anne Diamond, concerned the limited NHS budget, whether everyone has a right to have children, whether everyone who needs IVF should be able to access it free and how many cycles of IVF should be alotted per patient. There will always be controversy, as long as individual PCTs can use their own criteria for eligibility. For instance, Wright mentioned that about one-third of PCTs will allow patients who are smokers to access IVF, even though smoking is known to inhibit conception, raise the chances of miscarriage and impact upon the health of the foetus during pregnancy and after birth. It is, perhaps, the uneven and confusing allocation of fertility treatment that galls people the most. 

A caller to the programme, Katie, was also denied IVF which she needed due to blocked fallopian tubes because her partner had adult children.  She eventually managed to save the money for private treatment and is now the mother of a 5-month old baby, but considers the financial hardship it caused to be unfair.  Susi Henson phoned in to the show to say that she has received a lot of public support, as well as a phone call from one of the policy-makers who has promised to review her case and the PCT's policies on IVF treatment. However, the policies are only reviewed in April each year. Matthew Wright emphasized the inadequacy of this offer, pointing out that the delay of nearly a year could negatively impact upon Henson's chance of conceiving, as age is an essential aspect of a woman's fertility.

Even if a woman is the stepmother to her partner's young children, and partially responsible for their upbringing, should she be denied the ability to have her own children? By definition, those children have, or had, a mother already. Step-parenting can be difficult and is not always loving or even cooperative, depending upon the degree of amicability between the estranged parents of the children involved, custodial arrangements and other emotional factors. While step-parenting may fulfil some women's needs, others will never see it as an adequate replacement for the experience of giving birth to, raising and loving her own children. Further, it is entirely natural for a couple to want to create a family of their own.

If a woman meets all other criteria for fertility treatment on the NHS, and it is deemed medically necessary in order for her to conceive, it seems cruel and unjust to deny her that chance. Most women have no inkling of their infertility until they have begun trying to conceive, therefore, they will not had the chance to take it into account when agreeing to marry someone who already has children from a previous relationship.  Ironically, they may have had an easier time accessing NHS treatment is they were single, as many PCT's will allow IVF to single women.  This is symbolic of the incoherence and uneven-handedness of the present policies existing across the UK. If we are to ensure a fair allocation of NHS funds for fertility treatment, wouldn't it be better to look at the people concerned and make more individual decisions? Matthew Wright thinks an IVF ombudsman could work. I like the idea of individual, people-centred decision making, but I imagine I can already hear cries of alarm about the cost involved in that: how many IVF procedures could have been paid for with the salary of the ombudsmen?   

You know about the National Lottery and Euromillions, but have you heard of the IVF Lottery?

We are used to hearing about how the National Lottery or Euromillions has changed someone’s life, but have you ever contemplated a lottery that can actually result in new life? The UK charity, To Hatch, has just been granted a license by the Gambling Commission, allowing it to sell lottery tickets online. The prize, to be awarded monthly, is £25,000 worth of bespoke fertility treatment at one of the UK’s top clinics.  Camille Strachan, the founder of To Hatch, has told the media that the lottery is more like a raffle, open to single, gay and older people as well as couples who have not been able to conceive.  She explained “This is not a wacky stunt; it is about helping desperate people who cannot afford to go [for fertility treatment] privately.”

Criticism has been harsh - The plans for the IVF lottery were released to the media this week, prompting a flurry of comments by spokesmen from public interest groups and regulators, including the Human Fertilisation & Embryology Authority (HFEA), the British Fertility Society (BFS) and Comment on Reproductive Ethics.  All three voiced concern and negativity, the HFEA’s position that “using IVF as the prize in a lottery is wrong and entirely inappropriate.” While headlines branded it the “win a baby” monthly lottery, what is really being offered is access to treatment and a few conveniences such as accommodation in a luxury hotel, chauffeur-driven transportation from the hotel to the fertility clinic and a mobile phone for constant contact with doctors. 

A dream come true? - On the face of it, that all sounds like a dream come true for anyone who has failed to access fertility treatment through the National Health Service (NHS) due to age, the birth of previous children, their Primary Care Trust (PCT) insufficient budget or those who can’t afford private treatment.  There would be a dozen lottery winners a year and the profits, approximately 20% of ticket sales, would go to Strachan’s charity, To Hatch, which offers fertility information and advice to members.  Even for those who have already been footing the bill for IVF themselves, I anticipate that many would appreciate being pampered a bit while undergoing stressful treatment.  

The patient's perspective - Having felt the desperation associated with infertility myself, I will admit that if I was still trying to conceive I would be tempted to buy a ticket for the IVF lottery. After all, with a lottery win, the time I spent consulting different doctors, going for lab tests, crying over the failure of the NHS to offer me help, trying to find the money for treatment and choosing a clinic, could have been spent feeling lucky, supported and hopeful. Furthermore, this is in no way a chance to “win a baby” as the news headlines are screaming. At its best, this scheme offers someone who wants a baby, not only the chance to pay for treatment, but also the ease of access to quality treatment in the UK that Strachan will provide. Let’s not forget, that plenty of UK residents who have been frozen out by the NHS restrictions on fertility treatment look into fertility tourism schemes that require them to go to the US, other European countries and India for treatment. The risks presented by treatment abroad include the lack of continuity of care and the differing regulations regarding fertility treatment.

The most substantive concern over what the IVF Lottery will actually provide centres on the possibility that winners could access donor sperm, donor eggs or even the services of a surrogate to carry their baby. Josephine Quintavalle from Comment on Reproductive Ethics demanded to know “surely it is not legal to pay £20 to have access to another woman’s womb?” Isn’t she missing the point? The surrogate wouldn’t be paid £20. The proceeds of the lottery win would be used to compensate her appropriately, within the restrictions imposed by law.  Does it matter from whose pocket the compensation actually comes?  Furthermore, there is no suggestion that winners are guaranteed to conceive, give birth to or otherwise receive a healthy baby; participating doctors will still be governed by medical ethics and regulations.

Other schemes already exist to defray the costs of treatment, such as the practice of offering fertile, gay women free or discounted IVF in exchange for their surplus eggs, which are then “sold” to infertile patients at the clinic. This is euphamistically called "egg sharing." US fertility clinics run promotions offering free IVF, from which they build a mailing list, gain media attention and can claim to be philanthropic. One of these, the Fertility Treatment Center in Scottsdale, Arizona, is currently running a promotion on their website: “Enter to win a FREE IVF Cycle worth an estimated $15,000. Open to the first 100 guests ONLY...RSVP today!” This type of promotion has already made an appearance in the UK; earlier this year, the Genetics & IVF Institute in Virginia and the London Bridge Centre offered a free cycle of Donor IVF to one attendee of their joint seminar in London.  

If nothing else, the controversy over Strachan’s plans is positive; forcing more attention to be paid to the plight of those who can’t access appropriate fertility treatment in the UK.  We need to keep the spotlight on the medical, lifestyle and environmental causes of infertility, the inability of the NHS to meet the demand for fertility treatment and the advances in medical science that could allow more people to create families of choice.  I doubt that there would be this level of controversy if there was a cosmetic surgery lottery, a bariatric surgery lottery or a hip-replacement lottery.  When balancing the arguably sensational and gimmicky nature of a lottery against the hope and joy it could give someone who wants a baby, I would have difficulty pointing the finger of disapproval at anyone who decided to give it a try.